High expectation will set you up to fall.

Psalm 62:5
My soul, wait silently for God alone,For my expectation is from Him.

Having high expectations of people can be dangerous, we set ourselves up to fall. Even when people promise something or say they are going to do something, its still a risk to put your trust in them. People are fickle and they don't understand the damage that is caused when they don't come through.

We have different expectations of different people. People on the street....well, we don't have any expectations from them. When they do something that is more than we expected they become a blessing for us.

People in our family....well that's another story! If we would keep our expectations lower and not set the bar so high; just like people on the street, our families would be a blessing to us.

People in the church.....the bar is set even higher! We think cause they are christian, we can expect more from them. In some cases this is very true! However, they are still just as human as the people on the streets. If we are not careful we can get very offended by them cause they have not our expectations. Offence is a stumbling block, it can make you fall. Alot of times we expect more out of Christians then anyone else around us. Our expectations of them.

I have learned to lower my expectations and not be surprised when people fall short.

I don't know how many times this has disappointed me and in fact shaken me up pretty bad. I came into the church in awe of the life styles we as Christians live. I never expected to have issues with the people around me doing things and saying things that they shouldn't. Even though my expectations were not to much to ask, I was trusting in man. I remember the first time my expectations where broken. I couldn't believe what was happening, the person I looked up to, the person that helped me through so many issues in my walk. I was devastated! It shook me up to know, people in the church, could or would do and say such awful things. We need to remember that our family in the church is no different then the people in the streets. They feel pain, they go through hard times, they aren't perfect and they are going to fail sometimes. Failure is a part of our walk and growing in Christ. If we do not allow room for failure in peoples lives; we not only push them away but we hurt ourselves. We will end up getting deeply offended and this is a trap! Once we are offended, we walk around hurt just like the person that hurt us! Then we start to do the very thing that stubble us!

This is when we learn to love the way God loves!
Psalm 118:8

It is better to trust and take refuge in the Lord than to put confidence in man.

Isaiah 2:22
Cease to trust in [weak, frail, and dying] man, whose breath is in his nostrils [for so short a time]; in what sense can he be counted as having intrinsic worth?

Jeremiah 17:5
Thus says the Lord: Cursed [with great evil] is the strong man who trusts in and relies on frail man, making weak [human] flesh his arm, and whose mind and heart turn aside from the Lord.

Romans 10:11

The Scripture says, No man who believes in Him [who adheres to, relies on, and trusts in Him] will [ever] be put to shame or be disappointed.

If we keep our expectations lower....people will be a blessing to us when they pass our expectations. We will be blessed by them. Not to mention we will be a blessing to them.....the weight of our expectations wont be on their shoulders any longer!